Fear of Being Misunderstood.

Not having the radar for sarcasm is frustrating; I cannot identify it and end up second-guessing the responses I get.

Why do people ask questions and end it off with your name? It may depend on who says it, but this particular manager often comes across as condescending. She probably doesn't mean it, but she's intimidating, and I'm confused. Unsure if she plays these mind games, because she gives off this vibe that she does.

Maybe it's all on me and my lack of confidence. I am blaming myself for what - I don't know.

I gotta learn how to handle challenging conversations with bosses and explain situations properly without coming off as defensive. Or it's how they make me feel when I am trying to explain - a lot of times, we are already doing what they are suggesting, but the way they say it comes off so annoying.

I also have to learn not to speak too fast when I'm explaining myself. Why do I value their time more than mine? If it's something I have to explain or stand up for my team, I just have to do that. Otherwise, more misunderstandings could happen.

I wanna learn how to be comfortable with the fear of being misunderstood. Cannot expect everyone to be bothered about us and our ways.

I mean, she tried, and I'm not doing a good job explaining it. It was just off-putting to be told that we have to rewire the way we do things.......

1. We were already revamping things. 2. It's not adopted yet because the file is not even ready. 3. Your own project isn't even fulfilling the request.

I'm ranting and being all over the place.

There's nothing personal in the interaction. Nothing wrong. It's just sitting wrong, and I'm learning to manoeuvre.

I also wanna reduce my tendency to apologise to someone to ease the situation, and especially when I'm not at fault.

It is true that when we don't set our boundaries, we get caught up in the wave.. How is it that I am suddenly being held responsible for something that I was only helping with at the side when I have the time? I have already done all my due diligence. It's insane. Surely a clear example of not having boundaries set and going above and beyond to help people.

Who helps me when I need it then?